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1. Surround yourself w/ good people. Not positive persons who can tell you that "your day will come" and to "keep your chin up", but those that encourage and understand you. Those who listen and hold your hand during those awkward times are those who you keep near. They might not be your closest friends but are extremely invaluable. Almost as important as your family.


2. Keep bad influences away. Anyone who drags you down emotionally or mentally, let 'em go. Nicely tell 'em to fuck off. Does that person make you smile, encourage you to be more, make you happy when you see 'em? No, then cut that cord and quit wasting your time with frivolous people.


3. 80% of your friends aren't really your friends. I made that number up. Nonetheless, don't confuse yourself w/ transient friendships. That's why you should appreciate the aforementioned "good" persons around you, including your family.


4. Be a good person. I always remind my friends, "good things happen to good people." Luck and fortune also seem to fall to those same people. If you give shit, you probably will get the same. Ask Dick Cheney. Well, somewhat.


5. What people say, don't take it too personally. You're gonna hear lots of things about you within your lifetime. Like 80% of your "friends", the majority of it is crap. Believe in yourself, not what people say. Give weight using the same "keep the good, boot the bad" filter.


6. Laugh. A lot. I do it often. I tease my friends, making fun of myself to keep things balanced. Life's too short not to enjoy the little things in life, most of which should end in a smile or chuckle. It doesn't mean that I goof off all time. Those who have worked w/ me know how intense I can be =) That was ironically funny. I think.


7. Be comfortable with yourself. I told a friend that I am weird, an oddball, eccentric in my own ways—happy and semi proud of it. I am, also, quite normal for that same reason. That does make sense. Really.


8. Don't submerge yourself too deep into consumerism. Granted, it has good points, pacifying the general population leading to less crime and greater tolerance, but it is also a parasite to your insecurities. I don't really think a person has any weaknesses—as the advertisements say. No one is perfect and no one should tell you that you're not. Apply the above "keep bad things away" principle: ahh phooey, fuck it all.

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".... living a life defined by home furnishings, fashion, commercialized domesticity and constant messages about how your body should look can literally drive you batty."

"We're designed to be hunters and we're in a society of shopping. There's nothing to kill anymore, there's nothing to fight, nothing to overcome, nothing to explore. In that social emasculation, this everyman is created."

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"The women who use this website want romance, but these three meetings seemed utterly unromantic to me."

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• "How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either .... People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination."
  
  Stop thinking so hard, you'll pop a vein. Don't follow whatever makes you feel good, especially if it's a consumer addiction. Things are what they seem. You don't need to embellish it any further.
  
  
• "Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted."
  
  I am nothing special. You are just as special, meaning you're not. I have become more cognizant of those who put down others to make themselves feel better. Shame, shame, stop being a jerk.
  
  
• "Stop being concerned (with) what the rest of the world says about you"
  
  Most people don't give a moose's gonads about you. Live it up like Paris, but don't end up in jail.
  
  


• "Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren't working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you'll go wrong. The world changes constantly."
  
  A job is a job. Enjoy it, though do not think it's the end of the world when corporations go awry -- and they will. Life is the same. Nothing's perfect, good things happen and then shit does as well.
  
  
• "Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot."
  
  Stop meddling in other people's lives. Leave 'em alone and let 'em live. Also, lots and lots of people believe they can change the world, only because they don't like themselves and avoid confronting personal demons. It's never me, so it must be something else.
  
  

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1. Don’t pick on the weak. It’s immoral. Don’t antagonize the strong without cause, its stupid.
2. Don't hate women. It’s a waste of time.
3. Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized.
4. Get in a fistfight, even if you are going to lose.
5. As a former Marine, take it from me. Don’t join the military, unless you want to risk getting your balls blown off to secure other people’s economic or political interests.
6. If something has a direct benefit to an individual or a class of people, and a theoretical, abstract, or amorphous benefit to everybody else, realize that the proponent’s intentions are to benefit the former, not the latter, no matter what bullshit they try to feed you.
7. Don’t be a Republican. They are self-dealing crooks with no sense of honor or patriotism to their fellow citizens. If you must be a Republican, don’t be a “conservative.” They are whining, bitching, complaining, simple-minded self-righteous idiots who think they’re perpetual victims. Listen to talk radio for a while, you’ll see what I mean.
8. Don’t take proffered advice without a critical analysis. 90% of all advice is intended to benefit the proponent, not the recipient. Actually, the number is probably closer to 97%, but I don’t want to come off as cynical.
9. You’ll spend your entire life listening to people tell you how much you owe them. You don’t owe the vast majority of people shit.
10. Don’t undermine your fellow young men. Mentor the young men that come after you. Society recognizes that you have the potential to be the most power force in society. It scares them. Society does not find young men sympathetic. They are afraid of you, both individually and collectively. Law enforcement’s primary purpose is to suppress you.
11. As a young man, you’re on your own. Society divides and conquers. Unlike women who have advocates looking out for them (NOW, Women’s Study Departments, government, non-profit organizations, political advocacy groups) almost no one is looking out for you.
12. Young men provide the genius and muscle by which our society thrives. Look at the Silicone Valley. By in large, it was not old men or women that created the revolution we live. Realize that society steals your contributions, secures it with our intellectual property laws, and then takes credit and the rewards where none is due.
13. Know that few people have your best interests at heart. Your mother does. Your father probably does (if he stuck around). Your siblings are on your side. Everybody else worries about themselves.
14. Don’t be afraid to tell people to “Fuck off” when need be. It is an important skill to acquire. As they say, speak your piece, even if your voice shakes.
15. Acquire empathy, good interpersonal skills, and confidence. Learn to read body language and non-verbal communication. Don’t just concentrate on your vocational or technical skills, or you’ll find your wife fucking somebody else.
16. Keep fit.
17. Don’t speak ill of your wife/girlfriend. Back her up against the world, even if she’s wrong. She should know that you have her back. When she needs your help, give it. She should know that you’ll take her part.
18. Don’t cheat on your wife/girlfriend. If you must cheat, don’t humiliate her. Don’t risk having your transgressions come back to her or her friends. Don’t do it where you live. Don’t do it with people in your social circle. Don’t shit in your own back yard.
19. If your girlfriend doesn’t make you feel good about yourself and bring joy to your life, fire her. That’s what girlfriends are for.


20. Don’t bother with “emotional affairs.” They are just a vehicle for women to flirt and have someone make them feel good about themselves. That’s the part of a relationship they want. For you it is a lot of work and investment in time. If they are having an emotional affair with you, they’re probably fucking someone else.
21. Becoming a woman’s friend and confidant is not going to get you into an intimate relationship. If you haven’t gotten the girl within a reasonably short period of time, chances are you won’t ever get her. She’ll end up confiding to you about the sexual adventures she’s having with someone else.
22. Have and nurture friendships with women.
23. Realize that love is a numbers game. Guys fall in love easily. You’re going to see some girl and feel like you’ll die if you don’t get her. If she rejects you, move on to the next one. It’s her loss.
24. Don’t be an internet troll. Go out and live life. There is not a cadre of beautiful women advertising on Craigslist to have NSA sex with you. Beautiful women don’t need to advertise. The websites that advertise with attractive women’s photos and claims of loneliness are baloney. All they want is your money and your personal information so that they can market to you. The posts on Craigslist by young “women” seeking NSA sex, and asking for a picture are just a bunch of gay troll pic collectors. This is especially true if the post uses common gay lexicon like “hole” as in “fuck my hole” or seeks “masculine” men, or uses the word cock (except in the context of “Don’t send a cock shot.”) There are women on Craigslist. They are easily recognizable by their 2-5 paragraph postings. Most are in their 30's or older.
25. When you become a man in full, know that people will get in your way. People who are attracted to you will somehow manage to step in your path. Gay guys will give you “the look.” Old people will somehow stumble in front of you at the worst time. Don’t get frustrated. Just step aside and go about your business. Know that these are passive aggressive methods to get you to acknowledge their existence.
26. Don’t gay bash. Don’t mentally or physically abuse people because of who they are, or how they present themselves. It’s none of your business to try to intimidate people into conformity.
27. If your gay, admit it to yourself, your parents, your friends and society at large. Be prepared to get harassed. See rule 14. If someone threatens you or assaults you, call the cops. Have them arrested. You have no obligation to self sacrifice because of who you are. As a gay person, you’ll have more social freedom than straight men. Use it to protect yourself. Be prepared to get out of Dodge if your orientation makes your life unbearable. Move to San Francisco, New York, Atlanta, or New Orleans. You’ll find a welcoming community there.
28. Don’t be a poser. Avoid being one of those dudes who puts a surfboard on top of their car, but never surfs, or a dude with a powder coated fixed gear bike and a messenger bag, but was never a messenger. Live the life. Earn your bona fides.
29. Don’t believe the crap about the patriarchy. More women are accepted and attend college. More degrees are awarded to women than men. Women outlive men. More men commit suicide. Men are twice as likely to be victims of violence, including murder. If you consider sexual assaults in prisons, twice as many men are raped as women (society thinks prison rape is funny). The streets are littered with homeless men, sprinkled with a few homeless women. Statically, women are happier than men. The myth that girls are being cheated by are educational system is belied by the fact that schools are bastions of femininity, mostly run by and taught by women. Girls outperform boys in school. It is the boys in school getting fucked over, and prescribed ritalin for being boys. Real wages for men are falling, while real wages for women are rising. Just because someone says something enough times, doesn’t make it true. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
30. Remember, 97% of all advice is worthless. Take what you can use, and trash the rest.

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02-15-07

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